Manners, How do You do??

I'm not all that bothered by people's manners on a daily basis, if you don't want to hold that door open for me young man that's fine, but I find that most do anyway.  Maybe it's my winning smile (ha!) or that "hold the door for me or else" look I give sometimes when I'm struggling with many bags.  I am no longer grappling (again) with a buggy (and to those with double buggies, you have my deepest admiration) which, along with no more daytime nappies, has been very liberating to say the least.


But I digress, manners...  As parents we try to teach our emerging children the way of the world and how to fit in and be polite and well-mannered.  A few weeks ago an Education Minister complained that a lot of nurseries are failing to teach children good manners, by which she meant they are unable to socialise correctly or listen to the teacher.  This doesn't seem to be the case at TC's nursery I'm pleased to say.

It is in a child's inherent nature to be "naughty" and to get into mischief, TC has that look when asked to do something, I can see it, it says "I am going to look you clear in the eye and not do whatever it is you want me to do until I see fit!".  But we are saying please and thank you to everything and so far she is doing well in that department.  She makes great eye contact and I know in time she will stop interrupting every thought I have and learn they it's ok to wait if she doesn't get everything NOW (I do remember this with my own mum, being told to "wait a minute" was a frequent occurrence!).

I'm not sure yet, though, if I'm going to teach her the "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all", she can already convey her displeasure with that look, which she has definitely got from her daddy!

I can ignore things like a friend or colleague answering their mobile when I'm talking to them, in fact I'd prefer if you did answer your phone, it might be important especially if you have children and some things cannot be avoided in this technological world we are all part of.  It does appears to be a something that probably won't be going away any time soon either.  Even my 2 year old can text and use my mobile, I never know whether to applaud this or be slightly scared of how easily toddlers take to today's gadgets!



I could list a few otherinstances but when you analyse things like being forced to listen to someone else's music on public transport, it does seem a bit trivial, my answer is to move if you can (no not dance, although that would be a great outlet for pent up stress on the tube!) - these, like answering your mobile are part of today's modern manners or lack of them.

One thing that does irk me though is courtesy on the road, when I let a driver through or whatever and they simply drive on as if it was their right of way anyway, acting as if they haven't even seen you.  Makes me want to wind my window down at times!

So how do you do on the traditional or modern manners scale??  In everyday life some niceties can just get lost in the hustle and bustle so maybe it's not that we're impolite, just rushed and we "forget" our manners?? 

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8 comments:

  1. Great post - loved the opening paragraph! From when she was very, very small I have taught Little A to say her please and thank yous - on the whole she is pretty good, but still ave to remind her often too. And I am so with you with the driver thing - I do my best to wave when someone lets me through! X.

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    1. I do like please and thank you's, what does it cost, nothing! I always says thank you to other motorists, where I live it's gridlock a lot of the time and am always grateful to be let through!

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  2. AFraid to say that I'm a bit of a stickler for good manners and get very irked by basic manners being forgotten. I really notice the absence of them but equally spot the presence - at my children's school today, we gorgeous little girl (about 7 years old) held the door open for me and when I said thank you, she followed up with: "you're very welcome". It really was lovely. I think it's so important for schools to promote this :) Great post x

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    1. That is so nice, I hope TC will be that girl, polite and well-mannered, thanks for your comment Suzanne x

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  3. I like good manners, who doesn't? I get annoyed by rude old people who don't say thank you when you hold a door open for them or who bash into your children without saying sorry!

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    1. I do comment on those people HM, bashing into my child is not acceptable, just plain rude!

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  4. I do like please and thank you and definitely with my two I have to work hard with them. They aren't bad mannered, they are just two very spirited, mischievous girls, but if I didn't rein them in a little, then they could easily fall into bad manners.
    I too hate the car drivers that don't acknowledge when I let them out, I also get really peeved at people who intentionally jump the queue in front of me and act as though they didn't know they'd done it :)

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    1. I have one of those spirited, cheeky, mischievous girls, I agree about reining in, TC can take a mile sometimes!

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